Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Fuck You, 2008

It's true, I am quite the passionate cynic. But it's not just me this time. Most people I know had a shit existence during these past 364 days and can't wait for 2008 to be over with either.

What was not to love? Recession and a crap job market. Check. A seemingly never-ending presidential election season that got dumber by the month. Check plus! Bush kept making us look retarded, and our idols wouldn't stop dying. Seriously, if I thought it would have helped, I would have created an "End Death In '08" group on Facebook long ago.

The old saying goes that the four most traumatic experiences someone can go through are job loss, divorce, death and moving. Well, I did three out of four in '08... and considering that no one got an email heads-up about my starter marriage, you can figure out which one I was spared. If it weren't for my close friends and family, I don't think I would've gotten through the second half of this year. Thank you, all.

So for all of the above reasons: Fuck you and fuck off, 2008. My best wishes to everyone for a happy, prosperous and safe 2009. Oh, and holler if you know of a good New Year's Eve party in NYC. Or know anyone that's hiring.

Lastly, I wanted to give one final shout-out to some of the people we lost this year. Their inspiration and contributions to our foolish world are already missed.


Erlene Zierke




Paul Newman





Heath Ledger





George Carlin




Bettie Page




Eartha Kitt




Brad Renfro




Plus: Jerry Finn, Michael Turner, Bernie Mac, Tim Russert, Sydney Pollack, Roy Scheider, Charlton Heston, David Foster Wallace, Isaac Hayes, Harvey Korman, Estelle Getty, Jeff Healey, Don LaFontaine, Jerry Reed, Yves Saint Laurent, Jerry Wexler, Stan Winston, Richard Wright, Bo Diddley, Mark Felt and countless others.

Friday, December 19, 2008

7 Day Weekend, Pt. I

Here's a quick by-the-numbers breakdown of what I've been up to this week.

My Block

Words Written: 2,500 (not including the 500 words I still owe Decibel)

Projects I'm Working On: 4

All-Nighters Pulled: 1

Parties/Events I Hit This Week: 3

Parties I RSVP'd to: 7

Jack & Gingers I Drank: 8-10 + at least 2 beers.

Guys From Kentucky I Met: 2

Episodes of Lost: Season 4 Viewed: 9, but the night's still young.

Visits To The Gym: 2

Hats I Lost: 1

Snowstorms: 1

Friends Venting About Travel-Related Issues & Airport Delays: 6

Albums I Can't Stop Listening To: 2. Tie between Yeasayer's All Hour Cymbals and the Gods and Queens record.

Awesome Christmas Presents Received: 2. Thank you, Kevin for the yummy chocolates and Angel for the year full of movies.

Present That I'm Not Holding My Breathe Waiting For: A Wii via a strange man from Mississippi.

Favorite Memory Recounted: The beer salesman at Philips Arena who reminded us that it was the "last call for alco-hole" during third period of Thrasher games.

Line Of The Week: "Six Degrees of My Vagina."

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Dating Don'ts: Don't Be Awesome

A few years back, I dated a model/entrepreneur named Danny. Though I'd known Danny for a while through friends (and realized he was obviously cute because tons of girls swooned every time we were at a show together), he just wasn't my type. He had long hair, personified surfer cool, and was most definitely a thigh bruiser. Then one night out I caught him giving me the eye, so out of a mix of boredom and curiosity, I let him kiss me. And it was pretty damn good.

On our one attempted formal date, we actually missed an entire Lucero show because we were too busy making out—at points, horizontally—at the bar next door. Needless to say, we didn't really have a lot in common except music, but we had a whole lot of fun, and continued seeing each other for a couple of months—completely bonding over the few Operation Ivy songs Rancid treated us to during their 2006 BB King's show. I certainly had no plans to declare him my boyfriend (he personified model ditz pretty well, too), there were no plans of taking him home to Mom's. He was gorgeous, sweet, easy to be around. Like a puppy. A very sexy puppy.

Then one day, Danny started getting weird, distant, twitchy. A few days later, he broke it down: I was awesome. I was "the one." He had to break up with me. It just wasn't the right time.

"OK. That's cool if that's how you feel," I said, secretly thinking, "Yeah, I'm the one—the one that dodged the bullet."

Danny was pretty surprised by my cavalier attitude (really, did he expect crying?), but ultimately relieved to let me know. Right after that, we held hands all the way to the bar and pretty much carried on the same way we had before our "talk"—until he moved 1,000 miles from NYC soon before I left for Atlanta.

The cool part? Danny and I are still pretty friendly, communicating electronically and whatnot with some degree of frequency. He still maintains I rule. So when an echoing experience coincided with one of our online chats, I felt comfortable enough to ask him why he felt the need to break up with me when he did. His answer wasn't surprising: "I thought you were so awesome, but it scared me to think that I met you when I did. I just wasn't ready to commit."

This information overlapped well with a girlfriend's long-standing theory about confirmed bachelors and players: It's never really about the woman. For them, it's a matter of feeling their own biological need to settle down—and it's likely that whoever happens to be on his arm at that point will become wifey. They'll only be ready when—or if—they grow up.

So I guess this is turning out to be a cautionary tale for the ladies. Don't be awesome (or at least TOO awesome) because it scares boys away. Instead, focus your energies on other things—work (if you still have a job), art, learn a new language... then travel to that foreign country and fuck a native. Just don't be awesome.

Is this why a book called Why Men Marry Bitches exists to haunt me every time I pass by the bookstore at Newark airport?

Saturday, December 6, 2008

2008's Finest: Music Edition

It’s that time of year again: Everyone is putting together their best-of lists. So here’s my two cents. As usual, the list is based on my personal opinion, and not which artists managed to outdo themselves with “face-melting” riffs (can we please retire this colloquialism already?) or who hired the most expensive producer—this is all about the music that made my ears happy.

I’ll admit that my usually rabid need for aural consumption waned in the wake of 2008’s time-consuming traumas, so I’ve included a list of albums I probably would’ve enjoyed had I taken the time to seek them out. What else? Oh! Coldplay are still a bunch of soggy British pussies, so don’t expect to see them, Vampire Weekend or goddamn Radiohead anywhere on here. And don’t even get me started on Dragonforce. For the record, they still make my ears shit.

On that note, please to enjoy:

1. The Duke Spirit - Neptune
Though tales of love gone wrong hardly make for an uplifting album, Neptune did just that for me. The female-fronted British quintet—think Dusty Springfield jamming with the Stones—created an impeccable rock record with nary a filler track. More importantly, Neptune found me a time when I needed the most distracting—packing up my Atlanta apartment alone soon after Erlene’s passing. Somehow, thinking about shitty old relationships instead of life’s cruel injustices was oddly comforting, and for that Neptune is my album of the year.
Essential Tracks: “Neptune’s Call,” “Wooden Heart”
thedukespirit.com

2. Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds - Dig, Lazarus, Dig!!!
Nick Cave is the master of cinematic, bluesy narratives, so it's no wonder that his fourteenth album with the Bad Seeds, Dig, Lazarus, Dig!!!, still manages to reach biblical proportions.
Essential Tracks: “Hold On To Yourself,” “Dig, Lazarus, Dig!!!”
nickcaveandthebadseeds.com

3. Nachtmystium - Assassins: Black Meddle Pt 1
It would be enough to commend the Chicago-based powerhouse on their refined vocal delivery or for infusing melody into their black metal framework. But it was really their Pink Floyd-influenced three-part track, “Seasick,” that killed it. Without question, this is the best metal album of 2008.
Essential Tracks: “Ghosts of Grace,” “Seasick (Part 2: Oceanborne)”
myspace.com/nachtmystium

4. Torche - Meanderthal
A third of the way in, Torche switch gears from Melvins-worshipping fuzz mongers to heavy-ass shoegazers that owe as much to My Bloody Valentine as they do to Buzz & company.
Essential Tracks: “Healer,” “Across The Shields”
torchemusic.com

5. Dungen - 4
The Swedish band’s ability to create laconic psychedelia with lounge sensibilities remains as impeccable as ever on 4.
Essential Track: “Det Tar Tid,” "Satt Att Se"
dungen-music.com

6. Melvins - Nude With Boots
While it sometimes felt like a diluted version of 2006’s brilliant A Senile Animal, the Melvins’ continued collaboration with Big Business birthed the solid (but not always standout) Nude With Boots. As long as drummer crush Coady Willis is involved, I'm a happy camper.
Essential Tracks: “Dog Island,” “The Smiling Cobra”
melvins.com

7. Black Mountain - In The Future
In The Future's Sabbath-cum-Starship earthy sound is only enhanced by the rhapsodic vocal interplay between singers Amber Webber and Stephen McBean.
Essential Tracks: “Tyrants,” “Wucan”
blackmountainarmy.com

8. Young Widows - Old Wounds
Recorded partly live, Young Widows’ confident sophomore release, Old Wounds, finds the band striking a fine balance between concise post-hardcore and straight-up AmRep swagger-jacking.
Essential Tracks: “Took A Turn,” “The Guitar”
myspace.com/youngwidows

9. The Gutter Twins - Saturnalia
Though I tend to favor the tracks where Greg Dulli takes lead, this collaboration between the Afghan Whigs frontman and Mark Lanegan elevates tortured, mid-tempo white soul to an art form.
Essential Tracks: “Circle The Fringes,” “Seven Stories Underground”
theguttertwins.com

10. The Sword - Gods Of The Earth
This sophomore release from the Austin-based hipsters of doom is even more impressive than their Sabbath-heavy debut. Even Metallica took notice.
Essential Tracks: “How Heavy This Axe,” “Maiden, Mother & Crone”
thesword.com

11. Madonna - Hard Candy
Fuck all you haters, Madonna still matters. Though I generally skip first single “Four Minutes,” there are enough sticky-sweet dance tracks on Hard Candy to keep me coming back for cheap sugar highs.
Essential Tracks: “Incredible,” “She's Not Me”
madonna.com

12. Genghis Tron - Board Up The House
Steadily paced yet violently schizophrenic, Board Up The House is a refined math-rock masterpiece, borrowing as much from NIN’s extended moody instrumentals as it does from Agoraphobic Nosebleeds’ spastic blast beats.
Essential Tracks: “City On A Hill,” “The Feast”
genghistron.com

13. Yeasayer - All Hour Cymbals
I have no idea what you’d call Yeaysayer’s style. Whatever it is, All Hour Cymbals is both folksy and harmoniously lavish, with a healthy helping of worldly spirit. And they're from Brooklyn.
Essential Tracks: “Wait For The Summer,” “Forgiveness”
yeasayer.net

14. Play!Radio!Play! - Texas
This is my ’mo pick of the year and I swear it has nothing to do with the title. The one-man show known as Daniel Hunter—who's already a tortured genius at age 19—specializes in dreamy electronic-based love songs that thump with youthful innocence and anxiety.
Essential Tracks: "I'm A Pirate, You're A Princess," "Some Crap About The Furniture"
myspace.com/playradioplay

15. Wetnurse - Invisible City
Noisy, eclectic and utterly satisfying, Invisible City is a promising album in the vein of old-school Candiria mixed with all the math-grind bands—like Cattlepress and The Red Chord—that I miss seeing at CBGB.
Essential Tracks: “Missing Lion Returns,” “Life At Stake”
myspace.com/wetnursenyc

16-17. Nine Inch Nails - The Slip & Ghosts I-IV
A large block of my teens and 20s were spent obsessing on Trent Reznor’s body of work, then suddenly, somewhere around The Fragile, I fell out of love. Yet with this year’s pair of releases, he squirmed his way back into my heart.
Essential Tracks: “Discipline,” “Corona Radiata"
nin.com

18. Brian Wilson - That Lucky Old Sun
Somewhere between a Broadway score and a gospel revival, Wilson’s charming ode to the California sun is loaded with saccharine-sweet lyrics and plenty of lush melodies. Far less out there than Smile, That Lucky Old Sun serves as a cure for seasonal affective disorder.
Essential Tracks: “Oxygen To The Brain,” “That Lucky Old Sun”
brianwilson.com

19. Opeth - Watershed
Though Watershed won’t go down in the annals as Opeth’s greatest work, it may go down as their most refined.
Essential Tracks: “The Lotus Eater,” “Burden”
opeth.com

20. Hank III - Damn Right Rebel Proud
It’s always an event around these parts when Hank III drops an album, but Damn Right Rebel Proud is an especially intimate affair, often pinning Williams’ real self against his Hellbilly persona.
Essential Tracks: “Stoned and Alone,” “Three Shades of Black”
hank3.com

Nice Tries:
Santogold - s/t*
Rick Ross - Trilla
Grails - Doomsayer’s Holiday
The Knux - Remind Me In 3 Days
Murder By Death - Red of Tooth And Claw
Testament - The Formation Of Damnation
Okkervil River - The Stand-Ins
Evile - Enter The Grave

Song Selections:
1. “Knifeman” - The Bronx
“This isn’t music, it’s a pyramid scheme” pretty much sums it up.

2. "A Milli” - Lil Wayne
Far more bombastic than “Lollipop,” this might be Tha Carter’s hardest single to date. Just please, Weezy, keep away from those guitars.

3. “Bad Things” - Jace Everett
The rockabilly theme song from HBO’s True Blood is as seductive as a vampire's kiss.

4. “Crying” - TV On The Radio
Dear Science’s only bona fide booty shaker. No songs in French next time, k? Thanks.

5. “Devil Wouldn’t Recognize You” - Madonna
Dark, brooding and sexy, Madonna wins again.

Albums I’ll Probably Like (If I Ever Get To Hear Them):
Dolly Parton - Backwoods Barbie
My Morning Jacket - Evil Urges
Trap Them - Seizures In Barren Praise
Akimbo - Jersey Shores
CSS - Donkey
Don Caballero - Punkgasm
Russian Circles - Station
At least one of those bands with “Crystal” in their name
Girl Talk - Feed The Animals
The Mars Volta - The Bedlam In Goliath

Meh… Not So Much:
Metallica - Death Magnetic
TV On The Radio - Dear Science
Portishead - Third
Guns N Roses - Chinese Democracy
The Faint - Fasciinatiion

Most Unlikely Reissue I’m A Little Too Into:
Foreigner - No End In Sight: The Very Best of Foreigner

Best Video:
The Sword's "Fire Lances of the Ancient Hyperzephyrians"



Best DVD Reissue:
Iron Maiden - Live After Death

Best Live Show Experience of 2008:
At The Gates at Irving Plaza

Close Second: Catching Clipse immediately after seeing Motorhead play at SxSW—all before 5 pm.

Best Discovery:
Stumbling into Emo's two weeks ago and discovering the glory that is Bang Camaro playing. It was like Dokken met Il Divo for 10 rounds of Rock Band. My life will never be the same.



*Best Music-Related Facebook Status:
"I liked Santogold better when they were called Missing Persons."—Gerard Babitts

Metal Chick I Miss The Most:
Petrika J